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When you come to a crossroads, do you turn right or left. Don’t stress because whatever you choose that path will eventually come to another crossroad where you can choose again between left or right.

There are certain ABC’s of life. A is the leader and B is the follower. They cannot exist without each other. And C is the captain, who can play the role of A and B. I think when growing up we are either A or B, a follower or leader.

I was the youngest in my family and really looked up to my older brother and dad. I did everything they did. I followed my brother around and copied everything he did. Not just that I played the follower role with all my friends.

I listened to their ideas and supported their decisions by following them. I believe there is some kind of strength in being a follower. You can really boost someone up. But later in life I learned I needed to learn how to lead.

Kind of balance myself out…

I realized that A needs B and B needs A. In the process or conflict of leaders and followers, I withdrew from society. I didn’t want to be around people. I was happy alone. For me that's how I felt, but quickly realized I need other people.

But I did not overlook the benefits and being by myself and having time to think. It was like I was out and about for most of my life ingesting ideas, thoughts, situations, lessons and my time alone was the time for me to digest everything that has happened to me.

Then it was time for me to go back out into the world.

So I must be happy right here, right where I am. But also go into the sea of people and socialize. And the best way for me to do that is be my own captain. Be a C, a person that can be both a leader and a follower.

I was always fascinated by the types of blood. There was type A and type B, which could only give and receive to their own specific type. Then there was blood type O, who could give to both people with the blood type A and B.

The interesting part is that people with O blood type can only receive from other people with O blood type. I want to be that O blood type that can give to both people with A and B blood. In a sense I want to be able to connect with leaders and followers.

And there is a beautiful duality in leaders and followers. Our society is built around this dual relationship. But it also causes a lot of conflict. People fight, people even go to war. Violence, distress, strife, also are created in the conflict people interactions.

Are you dominant or submissive? Cultures arise and value these two differently. What do you see as the most powerful? I see that one cannot be without the other. And we must challenge ourselves to learn the benefits of both.

Life is like the letter S. The letter S is an illustration of a path. We start off at the bottom and go to the right, meaning we learn what is right and we assimilate into society.

Then we curve to the left, and see evil and leave society, and say bye to the sea of people. We see conflict in human relationships and we become more secluded and skeptical. And become less trusting.

Once we are fed up with society, we must learn the original story, the Spelling Bee, the story of being. Once we understand the duality of right and left we can find some peace. We can just be.

Then we curve back to the right, back into society, and we feel more at peace and see that beauty resides in everyone and everything. We are all a part of the universe and we are all just living, just being.

And being here wherever you are, in a crowd or by yourself, you will be happy. Being here, by yourself you will be with your thoughts and you will be happy with what you see, or your understanding of yourself and universe. And being here, with other people, you will hear happiness from the words of others.